Being an introvert person, I sometimes wonder if it would have any difference if I were an extrovert. Sure, it’s a known fact that I’m an introvert and that I am shy. But it is sometimes ironic how I express myself to other people because they say I am very frank with what I want to say. I guess being an introvert and being shy is not synonymous. Will I have many friends if I were an extrovert? I often wonder if it would have affected my blogging if I liked spending more time with people. How does it feel if you have many friends as you have no problems hanging out with different people?
First and foremost.. what exactly is the definition of the word “introvert”**? According to www.vocabulary.com, Introvert comes from Latin intro-, “inward,” and vertere, “turning.” It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. Introverts sometimes avoid large groups of people, feeling more energized by time alone.*
I hope I can give justice to all the introverts out there by writing this article, but this is just me. I guess it still varies and it depends on the person’s personality.
So here we go..
- I like to spend my time alone**
If there’s one thing people know about introverts, it is that they love spending time alone. So there you go. But not like all the time. Basically, to be an introvert means enjoying more alone time. I can’t speak for all introverts but I guess if someone were to invite me to a party, I would still go provided that the invited people are my friends. I choose my friends wisely and sometimes, although I categorize someone as my friend, I still am not comfortable talking to him or her alone. It requires a deep level of closeness before I overcome my awkwardness in talking to other people. Based on the people that I am close with right now, these people are actually my opposites. They are the ones who reached out to me and sooner, I felt that I can be me when I am with them.
There are also some occasions where I was the one who reached out. Primarily because I think we’re the same and that I can be comfortable around them. To help you visualize, I like having coffee in Starbucks (but I order green tea latte most of the time), or tea in CBTL alone. I love to write alone, hence this blog of mine. Sometimes I like shopping alone but it makes my heart melt when someone would volunteer to go with me.
- I am awkward, Like all the time**
I don’t initiate conversations. And don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not good but I’m working my way there. Small talk for people like me are horrendous. I don’t know any stuff about it and if I were to talk to you, please know that it takes a lot of my guts to utter such words. It ain’t easy. Most of the time, I will just smile at you. But again, don’t get me wrong, I am trying to be friendly.. and I really want to.
- It’s hard to be spontaneous while being an introvert**
Why? Because as I’ve mentioned, I have limited number of friends. And some of them, I’m not even comfortable to be alone with. So when I want to go somewhere spontaneously, most of my “preferred” friends aren’t available. And in the end, I have to go alone, again. By myself. Being a spontaneous person, and a blogger at the same time, it’s really hard. Especially when I want to attend events but there’s no one among my friends that’s available. And don’t ever think that my boyfriend can go with me all the time. First off, he’s not required to go with me, and second, he also has his responsibilities so he can’t just cancel all his appointments/responsibilities just because I need someone to go with me. Though sure, of course, he goes with me from time to time. And being a supportive girlfriend, I understand.
There are times when I want to try a new restaurants around.. then there are times when I want to go somewhere, but then again.. it’s quite hard knowing my friends aren’t available. And it’s understandable. Maybe it’s confusing that I’m asking someone to accompany me whenever I go somewhere but at the same time, I like being alone.. yes, I love being alone. But sometimes, I just want to be with someone too. Like kwentuhan and stuff, you know.
“That’s the thing about introverts; we wear our chaos on the inside where no one can see it.”
- Michaela Chung | The Irresistible Introvert
- I’m the quiet girl in the corner scrolling through her feed for the last 4 hours (or more)**
When surrounded by people I’m not really close with.. I’m the girl who scrolls through her feed. Sure, I am trying to socialize.. but after some time, it’s evident that I failed, like always. My head is rummaging through all the stuff that I can use as conversation starters but I just can’t seem to utter the words. This might be because I am also a shy person. See?? Just how horrible (and beautiful at the same time) to be an introvert while being a shy person too?? I feel like I am a turtle wanting to hide inside my shell. And nope, I’m not exaggerating here! All these are the truth and nothing but the truth!
- I let other people talk, while I listen **
I don’t usually talk or raise my hand because I know some other people are already thinking what I’m thinking. I would just voice out my opinion when someone from the group wasn’t able to blurt out what I was thinking. Most of the time, I just listen (I’m a good listener btw!), I don’t want to interrupt someone talking because I know how it feels when someone interrupts you. To argue of course is different. We agree to disagree (because we’re humans!). Whenever I have something to say, I make sure you get my point, hear it, and most importantly, understand it.
- I’m quite fascinated when people actually remembers me!**
Because I don’t talk that much and I don’t feel my presence is needed. This is true mostly when my *barkada *plans a night out. I don’t expect them to invite me but whenever they do, it feels nice. Well, the case is different of course when I’m with my closest friends. My personal group of friends really makes me feel important because I know they’re just there and so am I to them.
- The case is different when I’m in work**
Most especially to meetings. I am proactive and I voice out my opinion. I’m quite competitive too. So I guess it helps that I want to be better when I am in the office because it makes me talk to people. Lol! I’m working my way to outgrow my shyness but it looks like it’s here to stay for quite some more time.
- It’s hard reaching out**
Especially when you need help. One example I can give is when I started out this blog. My goal for this blog is for it to become successful in terms of organic visits. This goal requires a lot of networking and talking to people. When I first started my blog’s Facebook page, I am hesitant because who will like the page anyway? People I know that will actually like it were my friends. But as I’ve mentioned, I have few trusted friends. I guess it’s one challenge that I have to face knowing that I’ll never be an extrovert person. And up to this day, I’m struggling to make my blog’s Facebook page have more likes.
- I am very outspoken, noisy, and bungisngis* when I’m with my friends**
Yes, I’m always quiet and I love to be alone. But when I’m with my favorite people, I become cray cray too! Good kind of crazy I guess. We love to party too! And do many stuff.. but with our choice of people. :)
This is just me. I can’t speak for all introverts. I guess we can now bust the myth that introverts are boring. We aren’t boring you know! We just choose whom we can show our real true self. Lol! And yes, it you’re that person we can be comfortable with, then you’re lucky. Do not ever break our trust.
Any ambivert or extrovert out there? What can you say? :)
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